Men’s Therapy in Portland, Oregon

You’re here because ‘handling it alone’ just isn’t cutting it anymore. 

Maybe you’re considering therapy because…

You are feeling lonely.
You find yourself feeling disconnected from others, either in your relationship or in general. You are not alone. Messages about masculinity run deep, and they start early. Research shows that as early as 3-5, young boys are being taught to disconnect. You are taught to be autonomous and independent at the cost of connection with others.

We’re here to help you reconnect. Therapy can help you find an authentic balance between independence and connection. We can support you in identifying what you want to do to feel less lonely and then achieve those goals. Therapy can offer you tools for connection that weren’t taught to you earlier on in life. We also understand how complex trauma can influence a lack of connection, and we are skilled in addressing that.

You are struggling with sex.
You find yourself struggling to navigate sex, either in a committed relationship or on your own. Maybe you are experiencing anxiety around sex, erectile issues, issues with porn, or you are struggling to navigate a non-monogamous relationship.

As therapists, we are passionate about helping you address these issues. We can help you peel back your feelings around sex, connect with your desires, and communicate what it is you truly want. Men are taught that they are supposed to be “sexual performers” in the bedroom; therapy can help you unpack these messages. We can help you explore what feels most authentic to you!

You are experiencing a lot of anxiety.
You might feel like your mind is always racing, your body is tense, you experience anger/irritability, or you’re constantly bracing for the next problem, even when everything seems fine. Men are often taught to dismiss anxiety as “stress” or push through it, but ignoring it rarely makes it go away. Maybe you’ve tried to “tough it out,” only to find the anxiety just comes back stronger.

Therapy can help you understand why your anxiety shows up and how to work with it--not against it. We’ll explore tools to calm your nervous system, challenge unhelpful thought patterns, and build confidence. Anxiety doesn’t mean you’re broken, it’s often a signal that something needs attention. Together, we’ll help you regain control, without judgment or outdated “just man up” advice.

You are struggling to identify what you want.

You might feel stuck in a fog, making decisions based on what you should do (or what others expect) rather than what you truly want. Maybe you don’t even know what you want! Men are often taught to prioritize being a provider or a fixer. It’s no wonder so many men lose touch with their own desires!

Therapy can help you cut through the noise and reconnect with yourself. We’ll create space to explore your values, untangle societal expectations, and practice tuning into your gut. It’s not about selfishness, it’s about clarity. When you know what you want, life becomes more intentional.

You are dissatisfied in your relationship.
You might love your partner but feel like you’re stuck in a loop of misunderstandings, resentment, or emotional distance. Maybe you’ve tried to “fix” things on your own, only to end up in the same arguments. Men are often taught to solve problems logically, but relationships thrive on emotional connection; something many men weren’t taught to nurture.

Therapy can help you break the cycle. We’ll work on communication skills that go beyond “just talking,” help you express needs without blame, and rebuild intimacy. Whether you’re looking to reconnect or navigate a respectful separation, we’ll help you do it with clarity. 

You are newly discovering neurodivergence.
Maybe you’ve always been labeled as “different”, struggling with focus, social cues, or routines, but internalized it as a personal failing. Now, as an adult, you’re realizing there might be a reason: ADHD, autism, or another neurodivergent trait. Men are often misdiagnosed (or missed entirely) because symptoms can look like “typical” masculinity (e.g. impulsivity = “risk taking,” hyperfocus = “loving work”).

Therapy can help you reframe your story with compassion. We’ll explore how your brain works, identify strengths masked by old labels, and develop strategies tailored to you. Neurodivergence isn’t a flaw, it’s a different operating system.
Together, we’ll help you thrive.